Here’s a good summary of the basic rules, from the Daily Nexus’ Laurel Rinehart.
Stoner Etiquette: A Beginner’s Guide
It’s not the best-written or the most thorough example of a guide to stoner etiquette, but it is a good one and it’s free. My book is, of course, also available and is much more complete, not to mention better-written.
Here’s some “stoner superstitions” from Leafly. I’ve never heard of the “white lighter” one:
Smoking cannabis with one carries extremely negative vibes. The bad juju can lead to broken bongs, getting busted, or even having your grow ruined by weather. Avoid using a white lighter to smoke cannabis at all costs or suffer certain catastrophe.
When I was in high school, people said that some color lighter meant you were gay. I don’t remember which color (maybe red?). Anyway, this just seems like fleeting rumor, not a real superstition. But we shall see whether people are still talking about it in a few years.
Also, the idea that you should punch people who cough on a hit is stupid. Aside from being mean and needlessly violent, coughing is a good thing; it gets you higher. No one should be punished for that.
Here’s a list of times you shouldn’t be stoned, which is always good to keep in mind. Number Five is the most important one IMHO
5. When you’re the only person smoking weed at a party
You thought it would be cool with the host to spark up your J upon walking in the front door. But now you’re being asked to leave, having offended everyone in the party – and now getting the attention of the off-duty cop who just showed up. Yikes!
Yikes… I’ve been that dude, sorry to say.